Lazy? Here's the cure by Jen Atkins
posted on 10/01/2016 10:10:00 PM
Laziness doesn’t exist
It’s just a word or a label we’ve given to explain or justify something deeper that we’d prefer to ignore. We prefer not to notice or acknowledge our shadows. It’s easier to resist them, ignore them or attempt to cover them up with food or drink. “Laziness” is a symptom. It’s a sign that something else is going on beneath the surface.
So I thought I’d be open and honest about my experiences of this! In the past I have gone through phases where it was a struggle to get up in the morning and I felt totally demotivated... to the point where I just couldn’t bring myself to do anything! It’s not because I’m a lazy person, it’s because there were things going on in my life that were affecting me; things I wasn’t dealing with.
As a coach working with hundreds of others, I’ve met so many other people who experience these lulls too.
“Laziness” is the label we give to something when we judge it, based on what we think it should be.
Phew! Breathe… so what’s going on?
Well firstly, you’re not lazy. But you are experiencing something… here are seven things it might be:
Tired of going, going, going in this crazy, fast-paced, speed-obsessed world. You push and you pull and you try to keep up with the expectations of others until your body and your mind and your weary, exhausted soul say enough and you
crash, and crash hard. Give yourself a break without judging your need for rest. It’s okay to slow down.
2. Lack of Nutrients
Honestly, if you’re feeling frazzled, then your body is out of whack and isn’t getting enough nutrients from plant-based foods. It’s easy when you feel like this to reach for the coffee and muffin for a quick fix but as you know this just leads to a crash later. Try adding lots of green veges into your diet. The best way to do this is have a green smoothie
every day. Do this and you’ll notice the difference.
You’ve allowed it to pile on – the tasks, the goals, the dreams, the need to do it all yourself, and to make sure it’s perfect. You’ve taken on the responsibility and with it the guilt, the stress and the inability to admit you’re human. You’ve taken on so much that you soon can’t see straight and so it all just sits, staring you in the face while you freak out, settle for spending your time on Facebook, or curl up on the couch with a tub of Haagen-Dazs while you quietly think you’re failing. It doesn’t make you lazy; it makes it impossible to move when you’re buried so deep.
It’s new and big and you’re scared it might not pan out or that it will turn out like it did the last time. You have a CD playing in your head that is stuck on repeat telling you it’s going to get ugly, be difficult, and blow up in your face. And who the heck wouldn’t avoid that? Beating yourself up won’t get you inspired and motivated. Give yourself some love, sister.
You’re holding back, withdrawn or shy or not feeling good enough. Your pain is probably buried, deep and sheltered, because how could you function if it was full force? But it’s still there, an aching or gnawing dragging you down, draining
you of your spark, your desire, your passion for life.
People seem to resist this one the most. Most of us just don’t want to admit that not enjoying something – not feeling inspired – is okay. Well, let me tell you… it is okay. It’s okay to not enjoy washing the dishes or not be inspired to work today. It’s okay to find that class boring and choose to pursue what you love instead. If it’s something you feel is necessary, question yourself – maybe it’s not necessary after all, or maybe there’s a way to change it into something you can love. What’s so wrong with that?
You’re tired, overwhelmed, afraid, hurting, uninspired and you don’t know how to get past it. You may not even know what it is you’re trying to get past. You try something new only to spin your wheels. You’re living your life on repeat, with the same worn-out patterns and themes playing again and again. I know “stuck” well. But guess what? None of
these are your real problem either. All of these are just symptoms too. Motivational tools to help you overcome your “laziness” are not the solution. Why? Because it’s not laziness you need to overcome! You don’t need a carrot and-
stick motivator, or a swift kick up the backside. Focusing on treating the symptoms is a lot like taking painkillers for a broken leg. It gets you through the pain, but your leg is still broken. Sure, you could listen to some motivational talks, read a book from your self-help collection, finally allow yourself a guilt-free night of sleep, delegate some tasks,or push through the funk. But if you only address the symptoms which may of course temporarily “cure” your “laziness”, you’ll probably just find yourself curled back up on the couch with your BF Cadbury, and self-loathing again within a month (if that). Okay, so what do you do? Good question. Well firstly, you have to really want to change. This is not wishful thinking. It’s a burning desire to experience and live your dream reality. You have to DIG DEEP and get to the root of these symptoms before you can really make lasting changes.
IF YOU’RE READY TO UNCOVER AND MOVE THROUGH THE THINGS THAT ARE REALLY GETTING IN YOUR WAY…
(the things that create your need to do it all until you’re overwhelmed and tired, or that have you so paralysed with fear that you don’t do anything, or that have you chasing someone else’s goals until you can’t recognise yourself any more)…
IF THAT’S YOU, THEN HOLD TIGHT. I WANT TO GIVE YOU A GIFT.
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See you on the flip side.
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