The Five Friends We All Need
THEY SAY IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD. WE SAY IT TAKES A TEAM OF FIVE WOMEN IN YOUR LIFE TO JUGGLE ALL THE HATS, STAY SANE, KEEP FIT, AND PULL OFF THE ‘SUPERWOMAN’ LIFESTYLE SO MANY OF US AIM FOR.
WORDS KERI KRIEGER
This is your “spouse” friend – the one you do “couple things” with. You holiday together, have weekends away and special birthdays are planned in advance. You’ll bring the laundry in for each other and send one another text messages, like “Out of almond milk can you pick some up on the way home please. Love you.”
This friendship is more than sheer convenience: it’s support, and respect of your shared values to stay healthy and maintain that slippery 80/20 balance, which can easily come unstuck when you’re under pressure. (That’s 80% healthy, 20% fun).
When you’re both juggling the daily time machine and she has that crazy early start, your “wife” knows she can sprint out of bed, walk the beach, do some solo yoga and you will be there with an almond latte and gluten-free toast smothered in tahini.
When you get home from a day that threatened to never end and are ready to order in a super-cheesy pizza, she’s there with her famous Thai chicken curry with loads of greens and glass of pinot. Yep, that’s my favourite kind of 80/20 too!
Sunday morning brunch is a guilt-free event, even when you’re both having a slow start: you’ll get on your bikes to ride to the next suburb for that decadent brunch. Solo, you’re pretty amazing women: as a team you’re unstoppable.
The Big Sister
Sinblings have that special quality of being so incredibly different but somehow maintaining a thread of connection and a fierce bond that is loyal and loving. The same is true for this friend, and if you’re the eldest in your family, this is a really beautiful friendship experience.
This friend is someone that is so seemingly different from you, yet because of those differences she offers you a view and perspective that complements your own. She runs when you do yoga, she wears short shorts when you wear long skirts – you get the gist. When you want that alternative opinion, she’s the one to give it to you. And being the big sister, she’s got your back with a fierce stare for anyone (including yourself) who isn’t loving you right.
She’s also the friend who is brave enough to state it like it is when we need someone to bust us out of our comfort zone and challenge us to try something new. She’ll come with you to that new boxing class when it’s time for you to step it up a notch, and she’ll just go ahead and sign you up for that new silks class (or dating site) – she knows that you’ll love it once you give it a whirl.
In her company and with her support, you’ll enjoy pushing your boundaries and having experiences you never thought possible.
Likewise, when she’s pushing the extreme sports card to its limit, you will be there to remind her of the need for yin to balance the yang. She’s grateful for your reminder to breathe, to get some extra sleep and to take extra care of her health (mind and body) before that next half marathon!
The Mini Posse
This is the friendship straight out of any TV show that sets the tone for female friendship circles. The mini posse involves pacts, shared dreams and intentions written and then burned under the light of the full moon. There will be glasses of wine clinked with toasts, and tearful confession of fears, dreams and desires.
This friendship will remind you of your youthful heartfelt passions and encourage you to dream BIG, travel far and wide and keep your heart open to magic and love. This posse will last the test of time, even as relationships, careers and children have you scattered across the four corners of the globe.
As your kids grow and your careers unfold, you’ll commit to making the time to chat online and meet for reunions. There is nothing like sinking back into the friendships with the people who knew you “before” to keep you real and nourished. How amazing it is too, to look back and see how far you all have come, and raise your glass to another toast and a pact to meet again next year.
This is an extract from Oxygen Magazine Australia issue 77. To purchase your copy, email firstname.lastname@example.org or subscribe online today.
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